Chocolate Amaretti
Amaretti di Cioccolato
Ah, I've finally started answering your comments. But I just managed the Strudel and the Blintzes posts. I don't know why I thought I'd go through them faster. Clearly reading, thinking, and replying take time!
Yes, I know the image title isn't a word. But since I returned, I've gone mad from meeting random relatives and family friends. Why? Because no less than ten people have told me, "mukhang tumaba ka!" (Translation: It looks like you got fatter! Unsaid: ... Porky!) And while just the plain words written out just seem baseline-offensive, the thing that drives me crazy is the way they say it. With a giant smile on their faces! Like somehow they think it's a good thing to tell someone that they have chubbed up. Twisted.
Without speculating too much, I think there may be a cultural/ generational difference going on here. And not in the way that the Romans thought that overweight women were attractive or something. You see, if we're just talking about my own circle of friends, the only time we'd talk about it is (1) asking point-blank ("Do I look fatter?"), in which case the answer is always either "No!" or "Not by much, don't worry!" or (2) a male friend poking fun at another guy. But it's always undesirable, unless we are talking about my friends who have difficulty gaining weight, curse them.
With older folks (one full generation or more up, though a cousin from my generation said the same), it's possible that they do equate gaining weight with a general state of happiness ("It looks like the States agrees with you!"), sometimes health. The mere fact that you gained weight can go either way when they're talking about you behind your back ("He gained weight, but it looks better on him"). But among my peers, unless you're skin-and-bones, the connotation is that you've let yourself go or something. I wonder which generation has it better.
Truth? I'm a lot hard on myself for my appearance (without crossing the unhealthy body image line, I think-- then I wouldn't be baking), but I don't think I look substantially different. Based on Jen's kitchen feature with a picture of me, is that someone you'd call a chub? Definitely I gained only 3-5 pounds, which is not bad considering I did not go to the gym for 3 months (except for the Wii fit every day for 3 weeks), sometimes ate American-sized portions (regularly I eat palm-sized portions), gorged on desserts when the opportunities presented themselves (I was in MANHATTAN! Give me a break!), and stayed in most of the time due to the insane temperatures.
... But yeah, I did get heavier. But is that any reason to tell it to my face? If I was feeling grumpy, what should I have said?
(1) "So have you!"
(2) "Is that supposed to be a good thing?" (Let's see them try to answer that.)
(3) "No I didn't!" (This is what I said, with a smile, when it started to get to me.)
Okay, I promise this is the last time in a while I'll be talking about weight. I just had to vent while it was still fresh.
Today we have a recipe I made a while back-- Dan Lepard's Chocolate Amaretti. They are extremely easy to make (although they do need overnight). No butter in these-- they rely on ground almounds for moistness. They were gone nearly as I produced each tray from the oven! Not an indulgence, but if you need a satisfying hit of chocolate, these will do in a pinch. They were also convenient as I had a stock of ground almonds; I made the recipe to use up leftover egg whites, and they're a good way to go if you don't want to fuss with macarons.
The recipe is here, with a step-by-step by the Man himself here. His pictures are much better than mine, heh.
























31 comments:
Go ahead and vent! I am on your side all the way! The cookies look wonderful. Wish I could sample a few!
I saw that picture of you on Jen's blog, and didn't think then that you were a 'heavier' person, but I guess I don't really have a reference point. It's funny though, we were discussing Asian traits over a family dinner yesterday and my dad pointed out that a common Asian (Chinese, Indian, etc) way to greet someone was to ask them if they had eaten, rather than saying Hello. ie. Having enough to eat equates to being healthy.
I love your amaretti by the way!
Ouch!
I saw your photo at Jen's site. No... no.. you are not a chub at all, just the opposite.
Honestly I gain 8 pounds since I started blogging. And I am getting so worry about it.
But, still wouldn't mine having few of your amaretti though. Can't resist.
Cheers,
elra
I was mad at my mom once because she took a picture of me, after I had a 3rd son, and was proud to give it to me with a big smile. Yes I had put on pounds, she did not have to do that. That was not really nice of her. I still remember this and it was almost 15 yrs ago. No people should not tell you in your face that you have put on weight.
On another note, those Chocolate Ameretti looks extremely good. Hope you have a great week-end!
I met you in person and you're hardly chubby (well, not by north american standards). :-)
Love the amaretti - I could eat a handful (and likely gain an add'l 3-5 lbs).
Oh, I am with you on this one. This is really a very annoying Filipino habit. I don't know if they do realize it is an insulting remark. This is one reason why I choose people I want to meet when I come home to visit.
Another greeting that makes me feel like hitting the person is: Buntis ka ba?
I have been getting the, "You look like you've put on weight." or "Are you pregnant?" A LOT for a while now! And I can't say they judged wrongly. So, we're starting with a weekly swimming session (when the public pool is at its cleanest) and let's see if it brings me anywhere near, "Oh, you look like you have lost a little weight!"
Come on, you've only gained 3 to 5 pounds after 3 months in The States! I mean, seriously, that is SO neligible! They ought to give you a break! At least, that just proves that you were still eating well and all while away from home!
Mind sending some of those cookies my way?
Yeah, that pretty much sucks. You definitely look fit to me in the picture on Jen's site.
I get annoyed because I'm actually quite thin, but my sister, my two sisters-in-law, and my closest friend are all at least a size smaller than me. I thought everyone in the US was supposed to be fat? Apparently no one I know.
Hey, at least you showcased a somewhat less indulgent dessert to go along with your 'I'm not fat' venting.
You certainly don't look like a chub. Family is funny - can't live with them and you can't live without them.
The cookies look amazing - if only I had a few with a nice cold glass of milk. Mmmm good.
this sounds good! i feel like im getting a little porky but I just got back from the gym... may need a little easter candy snack though! :)
glad that finally I am here again reading your post. You know I have to get myself together here to visit my friends blog. Hope you are doing just perfectly fine.
as far as cookies, ah ha.. I like the crack on those cookies. Look so pretty and chocolate, don't tell me about it. It is my fav!
haha! typical Asian comment about weight...one I've heard before. Sometimes I feel it's generational, but at the same time, there's the implication that it's a negative thing(for women anyway). When they say it to men it seems pretty positive but when it's directed at women it's not. You know, the skinny/anorexic, pale Asian woman is the desirable beauty in traditional literature.
Hi Manggy,
I saw your photo on Jen's blog too, and no, it never crossed my mind to call you fat. Just so you know, skinny/lanky guys are not attractive. Having a bit of presence is a good thing.
I never thought of you are a heavy person - even prior to seeing you on Jen's blog - and my thoughts haven't changed.
I think you look healthy and should not worry about other people making stupid comments - I think it's natural to gain 2-3 pounds after a wonderful trip like yours!
Um... I guess it is a cultural thing because maybe they do mean it in a "wow, you look healthy" way. I am sure I would take offense too though!
I didn't think you looked even remotely heavy or "porky" at all. In fact, I think the statement and idea of it are both pretty ridiculous. Just sayin'.
As for these cookies, where was this recipe when I was going to make my Chocolate Amaretti Torte last week? If you have any of these babies left you should make that torte. :)
It takes all kinds....I've been losing weight, due to my efforts and feeling good about it. Last week, my aunt visited us and looked me up and down. She said "You've lost weight." Just as I began to smile proudly, she followed it up with a quick "Try to put on some flesh. Look at that neck and chin- you look like a patient."
:D Whadya say to that?! Anyways, thanks for introducing me to such a simple dessert recipe, and no butter too!!! Fantastic :)
You know, certain cultures can be totally obnoxious when it comes to commenting on people's weight, health, etc. You must ignore them and go about your happy life, okay? I demand it! ;) You're so far from fat that I'm not going to comment any further. Happy to see that you are back to baking delicious things. Okay, one more comment... next person who calls you fat, just shove a cookie in their mouth. hee hee. I like you just the way you are. xxoo
I think you're totally right. My mother-in-law always tells me I look fatter, but with the same smile. I think it's well intentioned, but a bit disconcerting coming from a western perspective. The cookies look delicious!
I'm sure you look great! And happiness is really the number one priority. These chocolate amaretti sound and look totally fabulous.
I hate hearing that from people I haven't seen in a while, especially relatives. Weirdly enough, such comments are usually followed by "kumain ka na ba?" times five.
Lovely chocolate amaretti! gorgeous I just need my cup coffee.
Venting is good! So is baking, and these amaretti look great! I definitely want to make them someday.
My family always do that specially my aunts! I find it offensive too!
I hate it when people you don't see for a long time and their first greeting to you is negative.
I just wish that if people can't think of something nice to say just shut up!
Don't mind those negative comments! Pleeease! you don't look fat at all.
Love the Amaretti, please send some my way!
grrrr... i know how you feel... great cookies though... :)
People who have a difficulty gaining wait are on my Sh** List. Because I am jealous of them.
Those amaretti remind me of my favoritest cookie of all time, the chocolate crinkle. They have that delicate crispy crumb but are actually chewy. Oh, man.
I saw your photo in facebook and others sites. You fat !!!You kidding me ...
I love amarettis, are very regular here
in india, they say: "he's a little healthy" for "he is fat" hahaha!!!! these cookies are so so similar to my fav cookie - the tuscan ricciarelli, but with the addition of cocoa. i will add cocoa the next time i make them. i usually add fennel and orange zest.
I so want to make these right now, but, I'm out of confectioner's sugar. I know, what kind of a blogger am I, right? ;)
Just got a cup of coffee , just need some of your wonderful amaretti to start the day.
Maria: You should give them a shot! They're really easy to make :)
Yuie: Ahahaha. Hmm, I think many of the Australians I've seen are sort of the heavier/big-and-tall sort. Weirdly enough it's rare that someone says, "I'm SO hungry, yes! Did you have any food for me?"
Elra: Aw, thanks so much! How long have you been blogging? Maybe it's just natural?
Helene: Oh, I'm sure she thought you were beautiful! Post-partum glow :)
Allen: Hardly? I want you to tell me I could be in Men's Health or something. :P You really won't gain much weight from these!
Cwid: Oh, I'm not sure I can do that! Maybe I should send out an advance party to warn my relatives of my impending crabiness?
Pei Lin: Good luck to you! I think you should go first-- say, "You look so fit!" You might get one in return ;)
Bridget: Aw, thanks! You should tell 'em they're not eating enough ;)
Pam: Hmm, I wonder if conversely they can live *with* me ;) Thanks!
Ginny: Oh goodness! Stay away from the candy bars! Appetite better served by cake ;)
Dwiana: The chocolate flavor isn't as deep as crinkles, but they are still very good :)
Linda: Blech, right? Don't you think it's kind of sexist for you guys in a way? (No comment about me :P )
Helen: Hee! It's the skinny ones that seem to be getting all the attention here :P Thanks! I'll make sure not to lose too much "presence" ;)
Patricia: Aw, you know, I think you're right! I'm being too hard on myself :)
Holly: Ha ha ha. Question is, if we took offense, should we express it at all? :)
Miakoda: You look like a patient!? Oh goodness. That's family for ya!
Jen: I love to hear that. I guess I just don't hear it enough :( OMG, I might cry! Lol. :)
Marc: Omg, I guess I have adopted a western perspective? Except for the dangerously thin though, I don't know who might take such a comment well!
Elyse: Well then, I've got the happiness covered! ;) Thanks!
Jude: Yikes, you should say, "Ayaw kong kumain, sinabi mo tumaba ako eh!"
Sunny: Thanks! That would be perfect! :)
Shari: Hee, at least I don't take it out on them. Too much ;)
Pleasures: Yeah, I know right? It seems like their concern is your stomach and not your presence :(
Mikky: Ha ha ha! Thanks :)
Heather: That's one of my favorites too!!! Still too chicken to make them as opposed to buying, though-- that's not right!!
Sylvia: Hee, thanks so much :)
Bee: Yikes, just let me know if you're about to throw around a term like "obese." That's where I'd really draw the line! :)
Lynne: One eating sensibly probably! LOL :)
Jackie: Hah! You need to have made them the night before, hee hee :)
I love Amaretti!!! Chocolate Amaretti would be fantastic! Thanks for the review and recipe link :)
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